The holidays are supposed to be a festive time of year, but they can also be quite stressful for individuals who are in recovery or struggling with their mental health. Whether it’s the temptation to return to hard-partying ways or the even bigger temptation to run away from family gatherings to avoid drama, the holidays aren’t like the plot of a Hallmark Channel movie.
You can put some joy back in the season by planning ahead to protect your peace and even create new traditions. Here are five ways to rediscover some holiday cheer.
Recognize What Triggers You
Learning to identify your triggers isn’t being pessimistic, it’s being smart. If you’re afraid of confronting past memories or even present tensions, it’s important to know what you’ll be facing so you can react in a healthier way. For example:
- You might create an exit strategy to leave events when the going gets rough. Or, you might have the courage to say no to them in the first place.
- Practice declining alcohol or other substances. “No, I don’t drink” is simple yet effective.
- Bring along a sober “plus one” to parties for emotional support.
Remember, avoiding what triggers you is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it’s a show of strength and resolve in your successful recovery.
Stay Connected to Your Support Network
If you currently meet with a recovery group, talk about coping strategies for the holidays. Put some additional meetings on your schedule, whether virtually or in person, so that you don’t go too long over the holidays without the group’s accountability.
Aside from your sponsor, you might want to link up with a peer in a similar situation so you can check in with each other for encouragement to stay on the right track. It could be a phone call or simply a text but do stay in touch with others. You’ll feel good about supporting someone else as you receive support yourself.
Take the High Road with Family Dynamics
If family drama has invited itself to the holiday dinner table, it can be very difficult to have a civil conversation. While it can often feel unfair to be the bigger person, it’ll be best for you if you participate in these gatherings with as much grace as possible.
Taking the high road, however, doesn’t mean ignoring your boundaries. In fact, you’ll need to reinforce those boundaries to avoid unpleasant conversations. If avoiding confrontation isn’t possible, try to limit your time with anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries. Know that you might have to step outside the gathering to take a breather at some point—and that’s OK.
Plan New Traditions
‘Tis the season for celebrating on your terms. Start new traditions with understanding family members or friends and create new, more positive holiday memories.
If sit-down holiday dinners sap your energy or you wish to avoid parties with open bars, consider hosting or participating in other holiday events, like cookie swaps, game nights, or fundraisers for local charities.
Practice Self-Care
The holiday season can feel like a sprint to the finish, but d take time to slow down and incorporate some self-care. This could mean anything from adding a few extra marshmallows to your cup of hot cocoa, buying yourself a gift, or declining a party invitation. Self-care is just that—do something that shows you care for yourself and your peace.
No matter what coping strategy or new holiday tradition you adopt, make sure it makes you happy this season.
The holidays don’t have to be difficult. Find out how Beachside Rehab in West Palm Beach, Florida can offer the support you need to thrive in any season. Call 866-349-1770 today to connect with a trained admissions counselor.
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